she get's stares. I mean, I expect that, here is a little toddler who look's like a line backer wearing shoulder pads under her shirt. People will most definetly stare at her, and I except that. We were recently in Road House (steak house) for dinner and this older lady sitting by us, just kept staring and staring at Kaity.
I don't think she took her eyes off of her the whole time we were sitting there.
It was a look of curiosity and disbelief, and at first it didn't bother me...I just looked and smiled at her and continued with my meal.
But, it started getting old and I quickly realized that she was't going to back down with her stares. I felt like going up to her and telling her to "take a picture, it will last longer" but I obviously did not, I had to show some Chistian restraint.
It's human nature to be curious, humans of all ages and walks of life are naturally curious of what's different.
So that being said, there's a margin of forgivness there.
But you know the golden rule, we've all been told by our Mother's growing up
"Treat other's as you would like to be treated"
So, strange woman who like's to stare, would you like to be stared at
in return? Probably not, who want's to be stared at?
The Golden Rule is a great rule, but unfortunately half the population doesn't
obey this rule.
Personally, I would rather people walk up to me and ask me what it is under her shirt and why its there. Then to have people stare with their mouths practically hanging out of their heads.
However, I do know that not everyone would be comfortable enough to do so.
So they just sit and stare instead, and that's that.
Nothing I can control, so I just deal with it and get on with my day.
That would be the bad, of the stares...
Other times and most of the time, people will walk up to us and comment about
how beautiful our daughter is and how they just love those big blue eyes.
I instantly smile and agree with a whole hearted thank you!
Who does't want to hear that their child is beautiful?
I remember as a child, while I was out and about with my family, seeing a
"little person" or someone with a obvious medical problem...
I would naturally want to look at them and see what it was that was wrong with them. But, as soon as they saw me looking, I would shyly give a smile and go on.
Now, as I am an adult, I purposly do not stare at people with medical issues,
infact I go out of my way to smile at them and say hello.
This is partly because I've grown up and know better, and mostly because
I now have a daughter who has medical needs...and I whole heartedly know
how it feels to be different and be stared at or judged.
Infact, I just want to hug those people and tell them its ok your loved and being different makes you special.
God loves everyone, he looks on the inward man...what's inside..not outside!
We definetly get stares, and I've grown used to that.
But occasionally, we get comments....most of them are well meaning and sweet.
Like - "We're praying for her, and she's so strong!"
but sometimes we get comments...like "She looks lke a Teenage Ninja Turtle"
that might be funny to some people or to the person who said it...not to me.
Or "How do you bathe her? she must get smelly!"
these kind of comments...I have to ask myself "did you really think, before you spoke???" they probably didn't....a real problem in this world.
These are just little things we have to deal with, in our new found cast life.
But as Christians we forgive and try to forget and get on with our lives.
Just taking one day at a time.
I have one of the sweetest little girls on this planet, and if people chose to only
see what's on the outside, then that's their problem.
I love you Kaitlyn Gynae, CAST and ALL :)
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